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MOURNING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE

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So you see my brother that life is so short, it passes so quickly and soon its gone. You just have one life to live on earth so remember your creator while you have breath. –Bernice Offei (Ghanaian gospel musician)

Life is fleeting: Like the wind, one moment its here, the next its gone. Like a flower that buds and blooms, it dries up and dies. The demise of a loved one always serves as a reminder of how fleeting our life is.

In a couple of weeks, it will be exactly 3 years since I lost a very close friend. He was the yang to my yin, the crazy to my often too serious self. The one thought that kept coming to me during that time was that he was forever going to be out of reach. No matter how much time passed, I would never be able to pick up the phone and text him to pick up from where we left off. He was gone forever. It did hurt and I buried myself in work so I did not have to spend to much alone time. I worried I would forget him as time went by. Truth was, I never wanted to forget him.

I am reminded today of how I felt when he passed away because I confront the death of someone I only knew from afar but admired. I can’t help but think of the friends who have to come to terms with his departure. Families have each other. They will stay together. They will support and comfort each other. All prayers and well wishes will go to them.

What about the friends left broken? How do they deal with the pain? They shared close ties with the loved one, ties that weren’t created by blood, but by life choices. All too often, the friends left behind need to find solace in each other. Every other and majority of the support goes to the immediate family and we forget about the friends who had close ties with the departed. A deep connection existed between these people, that wasn’t borne out of a necessity because they had no choice, but because they were formed over time.

Navigating that terrain isn’t easy. But like everything else, time heals the pain. The loss of my friend hurts less now. I do miss him, but the friends he left behind, we keep each other strong.

To the friends out there mourning the loss of a friend, keep each other strong. The bond you shared with the departed will keep you together as you chart this new course. Living without the departed will become the new normal. To us all, let’s be supportive of each other, loving one another and being grateful for everyone in our life. After all, we are on this life journey together.

This world is not my home I’m just a passing through. My treasures are laid up somewhere beyond the blue. The angels beckon me from heaven’s open door and I can’t feel at home in this world anymore. -Jim Reeves

Ben-Isaac Nyameche, you are sown but never lost. Damirifa due. Due ne amanehunu……………..

Gratitude, Happiness, Peace

being grateful through the storm

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“In everything give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you” 1st Thessalonians 5:18

Life can be hard. And yes, it is hard. For every phase of life we are at, there comes its troubles and difficulties. To make it worse, there’s no recipe on how to live life void of all the troubles.

Life has taught me that, it is very easy to focus on the negatives that I lose sight of the little things that make life worth it. But it is usually not about the grandeur stuff that can change our perspective on how beautiful our life is. Instead, it is the little things that really matter. Like the stranger on the bus who smiles at you, like someone offering to let you go in front of them in the queue at the supermarket, like having a job to complain about, like being accepted into a program that requires a lot of discipline from you. We all are struggling with something in our life, but if for a moment, we can forget about ourselves and make someone else’s life easier, isn’t it worth being joyful?

I have some good days and an equal share of bad days. Days where I simply want to throw in the towel. Days I ask myself, is this really worth it? In those days, I have had friends come to my rescue and assure me that it gets better. But like the ingrate I can be sometimes, I take these friends for granted. I get selfish and think about myself and forget that these people are fighting battles of their own, but they still make me a priority.

With time, it gets better. The bad days make me appreciate the good days when they come. they make me shift the focus off myself, but instead onto someone greater, God.

So, I am grateful for my family, even if its a dysfunctional one. I am grateful for the friends who put away their troubles to help me through mine. I am grateful for the days when I can have some quiet when my life gets chaotic. I am grateful for the good and the bad days. I am grateful that even on bad days, I can still manage to put a smile on someone’s face. I am grateful that I can still be grateful through it all.

What in your life are you grateful for?

#BeGrateful #MakeGratitudeanAttitude

Love, Peace

Beautiful mosaic

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Thou will keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee. Isaiah 26:3

How much resistance can you put up until you get to the tipping point when you break? How long will you try to stay strong until you can no more , that you simply give up? How long will you go on until you finally admit, its enough? I can’t do this anymore.

We go through so much daily and there are many thoughts we suppress instead of bring to the fore to deal with. That mental battle you keep fighting is draining you. Physically, you may look alright, but mentally, you are worn out. Its lurking in the shadows, waiting to pounce on you. One day, its going to hit you in the face, knocking you off balance. The breakdown you had been avoiding so much will come rushing at you like a dam whose gates have been opened. And nothing would hold it back. At this point, you’d have no option than to face it head on or however you want – ignore it. But its not going away by itself. You’ll have to deal with it – one way or the other.

How high can you mount your defenses? You cannot resist all the storms of your life every time. Something is going to break you at some point. But when the storm clears, pick yourself up. Gather the pieces together and reconstruct your life. It will take time, but you will surely fit the pieces together. And in the end, you can be something as beautiful as a mosaic.