MOURNING THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE
So you see my brother that life is so short, it passes so quickly and soon its gone. You just have one life to live on earth so remember your creator while you have breath. –Bernice Offei (Ghanaian gospel musician)
Life is fleeting: Like the wind, one moment its here, the next its gone. Like a flower that buds and blooms, it dries up and dies. The demise of a loved one always serves as a reminder of how fleeting our life is.
In a couple of weeks, it will be exactly 3 years since I lost a very close friend. He was the yang to my yin, the crazy to my often too serious self. The one thought that kept coming to me during that time was that he was forever going to be out of reach. No matter how much time passed, I would never be able to pick up the phone and text him to pick up from where we left off. He was gone forever. It did hurt and I buried myself in work so I did not have to spend to much alone time. I worried I would forget him as time went by. Truth was, I never wanted to forget him.
I am reminded today of how I felt when he passed away because I confront the death of someone I only knew from afar but admired. I can’t help but think of the friends who have to come to terms with his departure. Families have each other. They will stay together. They will support and comfort each other. All prayers and well wishes will go to them.
What about the friends left broken? How do they deal with the pain? They shared close ties with the loved one, ties that weren’t created by blood, but by life choices. All too often, the friends left behind need to find solace in each other. Every other and majority of the support goes to the immediate family and we forget about the friends who had close ties with the departed. A deep connection existed between these people, that wasn’t borne out of a necessity because they had no choice, but because they were formed over time.
Navigating that terrain isn’t easy. But like everything else, time heals the pain. The loss of my friend hurts less now. I do miss him, but the friends he left behind, we keep each other strong.
To the friends out there mourning the loss of a friend, keep each other strong. The bond you shared with the departed will keep you together as you chart this new course. Living without the departed will become the new normal. To us all, let’s be supportive of each other, loving one another and being grateful for everyone in our life. After all, we are on this life journey together.
This world is not my home I’m just a passing through. My treasures are laid up somewhere beyond the blue. The angels beckon me from heaven’s open door and I can’t feel at home in this world anymore. -Jim Reeves
Ben-Isaac Nyameche, you are sown but never lost. Damirifa due. Due ne amanehunu……………..